Homeschooling family values

Mouse and grandpaJust after Thanksgiving, my dad hurt his back.  Small piece of advice: Never get injured over the holidays when your regular doctor just left the practice.  To make a long story short, he ended up losing feeling in his leg and by the time someone finally saw him, the doctor was upset he hadn’t been immediately admitted to the emergency room.  As he went into surgery, he was given a twenty percent chance of spending the rest of his life in a wheelchair and a strong likelihood of never completely recovering the use of his leg.

Much to everyone’s delight, two days after surgery he had already recovered more than the doctor had hoped he would after a week of physical therapy so he was released early.  While he was quite happy to be walking already, he was also obviously a bit stir crazy.  He had a month off work with nothing to do but fret about what would happen if he were to fall and to try to entertain himself with Sudoku and the endless channel offerings of U-Verse.

So I offered up my ten year old daughter who about hit the ceiling with excitement when I told her she was going to go babysit grandpa for a week and a half while he recovered.  She began planning activities ranging from puppet shows to building model airplanes and collected some recipes in order to cook some meals for him.

I began collecting materials for her to work on.  Things educational that she could nonetheless accomplish on her own with nothing more than the direction to go do them.  A bit of spelling.  Some math practice.  Some reading.  I was contemplating whether or not I should send along some history of some sort when I realized that I was missing something larger than the schedule I feel hopelessly behind on.

After all, this is part of why we homeschool:  family.

What greater lesson could she learn than service to those around her?  What greater memories could she build than in spending such a special time ministering to someone she loves?  And what lessons were in any of those books and worksheets that couldn’t be made up later?

I’m learning.  But the impulse is still there and can be frighteningly strong at times.

Oh, and after she came home, we let her purchase another life lesson with her savings and (quite) a bit thrown in from mom and dad.

Beagle puppy

Anti-Social Homeschoolers

May be unsocialized, but at least they have a sense of humor.

Grant got IMed by a girl!

We’re homeschooled! That’s not supposed to happen!

Can’t help it. I love when people can have a sense of humor with the stereotypes about them.

Do we need a Secretary of Culture?

This is just a suggestion in an Op-Ed piece at the New York Times, but something seems a little disturbing about forming an actual Department of Culture.

…Which is why I believe the president should create a cabinet-level position — a secretary of culture — to provide more cohesive leadership for these impressive programs and to assure that they receive the recognition and financing they deserve.  New York Times

Why I find it quite so disturbing, I’m not sure.  I’m not against libraries, museums or the arts, although I do believe that actual funding should be done more privately and more at the state and local levels than at the federal level.  But clearly, the programs Mr. Ferris wants to put under the direction of this proposed Secretary of Culture already exist.

I suppose my discomfort comes more from putting a name or label to what already is, with a tad bit more centralization.

Michael Kaiser closes a piece for the Washington Post with an interesting statement:

As we print billions of dollars in bailout money, isn’t it time to ensure that we are saving our soul as well as our economy? Washington Post

He intends that as a plea to consider the arts in the billions of dollars of bailout money we are issuing to industry at the moment, but I can’t help but wonder how you can save your soul by selling it?  At what point do such programs cease to be a means of preserving our national “soul” and become a means of controlling and directing it?

Merry Christmas!

Enjoy this time with your friends and family. We will be enjoying ours over a cup of Christmas tea.

Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, which is Christ the Lord.

Luke 2:10-11

‘Tis the season to be boycotted

Every year, Christmas seems to be thrust into the center of the culture wars as businesses determine how to promote their goods to us and we decide just how upset we are at being wished a Happy Holiday.  My concerns began with an email alert I received from the American Family Association regarding the lack of the word “Christmas” in Costco’s holiday, er, Christmas, marketing campaign.

TAKE ACTION

Send your email to Costco.

Let Costco know that you will exercise “your privilege” of shopping only at stores that recognize Christmas. Remind Costco that their competitors are vying for your business too, and you will shop accordingly.

So far as I can remember, I’ve never set foot inside a Costco, so my scathing emails and promises to “shop accordingly” would mean very little. Of course, they don’t need to know that, but that is what started my musing. That and being told to boycott. That sort of strikes at my rebellious nature and really isn’t the best way to get me to do much of anything…especially when it comes in the form of an email newsletter I can only assume I signed up for at some point.

Anyway, that led to the Naughty and Nice lists put out by The American Family Association and The Liberty Counsel.  And I just noticed this, but what am I to do with Barnes and Nobles? They made the AFA’s “Naughty List” and the Liberty Counsel’s “Nice List.”

I’m a rather conservative Christian. Perhaps a bit too conservative even for the AFA and The Liberty Counsel for as I look down the Nice List, I’m not impressed by well-meaning companies paying honor to my Lord and Savior.  Instead I see a list of companies who would very much like to replace any Christian meaning there may be in the season with the Almighty Dollar. The name of my Lord and Savior is slapped on sales, bath soaps, cookbooks, linens and toys, all to be delivered in time for Christmas in hopes of clinching a sale. I wonder sometimes what exactly Christ would say if he were to walk through the “naughty” Bloomingdale’s or the “nice” Macy’s.

How dare you remove my name from your holiday flyer!

Er, Christmas flyer.  That seems stranger yet. And a bit out of character. But as a Christian, I’m supposed to “take on the mind of Christ.” To be His light to a fallen world. And it really seems there are ways to do that which are much more effective than engaging in what comes across to me as a publicity stunt to garner attention to a cause outside of the mission of the Church.

No man will live or die, be saved or condemned based on the welcome phrases used at a place of business.  If I had my druthers, I would much prefer to have the name of Christ connected with missions to aid the poor, the widows and the orphans than to have it connected to boycott after boycott of issues which are little more than expressions of cultural dissatisfaction and do nothing to help those who are truly in need.

A safe return

I had anticipated missing a day or maybe even two while traveling to Kansas, but not an entire week of posting.  But alas, ’tis the season for rushing about and thinking of other things.

Especially when most of your time is absorbed in tremendously huge projects taking up most of your thoughts anyway.

At any rate, we are back safely now.  And if you wish, you can read a snippet of our coming home adventures over at my other blog.  It involves credit card frustrations and knock knock jokes.  How better to spend a four hour drive?

Homeschool family loses child in truancy case

What began as a truancy report on a homeschooling family ended up with a fourteen year old girl taken into custody and placed in a children’s home.  Not in Germany, but in Wichita, Kansas.

Bambi Baker-Hazen contends her daughter has been abused in the state’s child welfare system since authorities took the girl in a case that began with a mistaken truancy report.  wibw.com

Now I’m still thinking there is a lot between “what began as” and the mother’s arrest on Friday after she refused to testify as to the whereabouts of her daughter who ran away from the children’s home in October.  The first story I found was rather sketchy, but thankfully Tammy of Just Enough and Nothing More was still up when I posted it to Twitter and found another article with a bit more information.

The Kansas City Star had a key piece of information I was curious about:

Ashton ended up at the children’s home after a middle school that mistakenly had her on its rolls reported her as truant, even though her mother’s home was properly registered as a home school. Baker-Hazen has since enrolled her other three children in public schools.  KansasCity.com

And that really does appear to be where the case began.  The Star uses the case to highlight accusations that Sedgwick County is the “child removal capital of America,” which may be entirely accurate.  But what social workers found besides a properly registered homeschool is interesting and quite relevant.

Their problems escalated while the mother was out of town seeking substance abuse treatment and mental care services, claiming in her testimony that she was unaware of the state’s involvement.

Ashton was placed with Baker, her biological father, but police picked her up and put her in the children’s home when Ashton ran away from her father to go back to her mother.  USA Today

I don’t know what the time frame is, but it appears that officials went to check on a truancy report and found a fourteen year old girl home alone while her mother was in another town seeking treatment.  I commend the mother for seeking help, but depending on how long Ashton was alone, I can see why some level of involvement was considered warranted.  And if Ashton is used to this kind of freedom, it is understandable why she might have run from both her father and the children’s home:

But in court Friday, Henderson [the judge in the case] noted that the girl was out at 3 a.m. and had admitted to drinking alcohol.  USA Today

Curious where the other three children were and why the case only involves Ashton.  But they are all enrolled in public school, now.  The mom also claims she is protecting her child by not disclosing her whereabouts.

Baker-Hazen told Sedgwick County Juvenile Court Judge Tim Henderson that when she tried to return Ashton to the home, the girl threatened to jump out of the car. She said Ashton had lost a lot of weight and had burns on her arms allegedly inflicted by other children at the home.  USAToday

Without documentation, that allegation won’t get very far.  With documentation, it might get Ashton into another child care facility while the Wichita Children’s Home is investigated.  Either way, I cannot imagine what I would do in that situation.

Did the state act too quickly?

It is perhaps a little too easy to side with the famliy or the state in these kinds of cases with only the small amount of information which is released to and reported by the press.  But Sedgwick County does seem to have some issues.

Her allegations aren’t unusual in Sedgwick County. While the state agency says it complies with all federal rules, the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform claims that the department is evading requirements that reasonable efforts be made to keep children out of foster care and that it is underreporting cases to a central federal database. Critics contend officials in Sedgwick County are overreacting to some high-profile child abuse cases, such as a 2006 one involving two Wichita children allegedly starved, beaten and tortured by their father and stepmother.  Kansas City Star, emphasis mine

We had a similar case here in Nebraska while I worked with the foster system.  A child was found starved to death after multiple reports to CPS and no action.  The “reform” consisted of following every single call, anonymous or otherwise, with a home visit.  And our small agency was suddenly flooded with referrals for emergency placements because the modus operandi suddenly seemed to be to remove children, then investigate.

Advocacy groups and angry parents have pointed to comments from the head of the state agency, Don Jordan, who indicated in March that his case workers felt pressured by the Sedgwick County district attorney’s office to include false information in court documents to ensure children are removed from homes. Jordan has since retracted that statement and the district attorney’s office denies the allegation, but a complaint from local family advocacy group Citizens for Change Inc. led to an audit of the state agency by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.  Ibid., emphasis mine

That is a truly frightening state of affairs. This may not be the case to highlight those concerns, but it is certainly a discussion that appears very needed in Sedgwick County and the state of Kansas.

Defending the homeschool community

Reading through the comments on my post, The politics of home education, I was struck by how many of these themes come up again and again in discussion.  What does it mean to be a part of the homeschool “movement?” How do we define (and hence control) it?  How do we respond when the “movement” goes a direction we don’t like?  What unintended baggage are we piling on ourselves when we adopt the label “homeschooler?”

When we decided to begin homeschooling, I did not immediately define myself as a homeschooler, nor was I aware of being a part of any particular movement, or series of organized activities working toward an objective.  Homeschooling was the organized activity (more on some days than others) and the objective rested solely on our vision for our family.

I did, however, pretty quickly identify with the homeschool community, a body of persons of common and particularly professional interests scattered through a larger society.  I found a great deal of information and support from fellow homeschoolers in my physical community, on forums and on blogs.  The people I connected with most were those who shared quite a bit in common outside homeschooling, but there was still a certain sense of camaraderie with homeschoolers with very different views from my own.

To be a member of a movement, we have to be able to agree on a direction.  Some things are easy.  When a legislator introduces a bill calling for increased oversight through testing, home visits or additional paperwork, most of us seem to be able to set aside our differences long enough to pool resources and act as a pretty organized body to defeat the pending legislation.  But then is that even a movement?  To defend what we already have?

Or is that what communities do?  In Customer.Community, authors Drew Banks and Kim Daus discuss community thus:

In the nonvirtual realm, the definition of community is much broader.  We say that a neighborhood has a strong community if its members work toward the betterment of the neighborhood, even if they never talk with one another.  We say that a store or restaurant has a community feeling if there is an amicable or social atmosphere where people interact freely, even if they don’t know each other.  We notice a strong minority collective presence and assume that the “likeness” of a minority status forms a community, even though many of its members will never interact or have any type of relationship with on another. (p. 18-19)

And I’d like to add to that the fact that you can have a strong and vibrant community even when the members of that community disagree.  Community is not about uniformity or homogeneity, but a certain level of commitment to the betterment of the community even if we disagree on exactly how to achieve those goals.  A strong community should also be able to survive (and even thrive on) various and sometimes competing movements within that community, so long as a certain level of respect can be maintained and we resist the tendency to marginalize those with whom we disagree.

It should also mean that we don’t feel the need to disown the entire community when members within it do something with which we disagree.  I felt no need to disown my community when a neighboring town decided to evict a now famous tenant, although I do miss seeing him in his field when I drive through on my way to Lincoln.  I have no desire to renounce my citizenship because my country has elected a president with whom I disagree significantly.  I can still in good conscious identify with a homeschooling community and the members of that community, even if we share very different parenting philosophies, political views, or religious beliefs because their actions do not define who I am, or what it means for me to be a homeschooler.

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